For close to 35 years I’ve lived in and around Palm Beach and Broward counties (Florida). For the majority of those years, through all of the boyfriends, apartments, jobs and cars I’ve been through, the one thing that has remained consistent is my personal style. I have always been a small town Rockabilly girl in a big city where fashion and personal style says just as much about who you are as a person as does the company you keep.
Rockabilly do rag.
One of my favorite accessories is the do rag. I like it because for most of my life I’ve only had long hair. I have a big forehead so bangs of some sort have also been a part of my forever look. The thing about a do rag is you can never have a bad hair day, and in a city of high humidity, that’s pretty cool. It’s also pretty cool that I don’t have to take a shower and get all gussied up just to run to the convenience store for a pack of cigarettes. Dirty hair? Who cares? I’ll just tie it up, covering my roots and off I go like a fashion plate!
….. my new rural farming town….
…. the do rag doesn’t mean what it did in the big city….
They know my secrets!
In a small, rural farming town, a woman wearing a do rag is not sending fashion forward signals and it says nothing about her sense of style.
My rural townies think I must be a seamstress… I suppose I am, I mean, I do sew some of the clothing I sell on eBay.
My rural townies think I must be a meat packer… lets not go there (haha).
My rural townies think I must work in the cane fields… pftt a day in the sun? But my skin!! How does someone whose skin is as flawless as mine survive the hot sun burning the hydration out of their skin cells?
My rural townies know when my hair is dirty.
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There’s a great vintage Ralph Lauren Western Wear Rockabilly skirt I would have kept for myself but it’s a size or two too large. The link above will take you there.
I threw this exact same coat in the garbage two weeks ago.
It retails for $8000.00 and repeats itself every 4 to 5 years, meaning, all fashion houses repeat this print pretty much every year but every couple of years one of the larger fashion houses does something to make it a trend again. It never goes out of style. It will always be a staple.
Why did I throw it away? I tried for almost two years to give it away on eBay, unfortunately, it sat in my store long enough for me to get tired of staring at it.
I originally priced it at 599.99 and after two years, just before I junked it, it was $59.99.
I don’t know if the issue is that Devin Wenig is a treasonous prick who is determined to destroy small American businesses on eBay like mine in favor of the Chinese who funnel millions of USD out of the US economy by way of ignorant shoppers who are willing to settle for the knock off versions for $20 less or if the “fashionista” population at large are afraid of resale and consignment? Do they think it’s more fashionable to buy something from Old Navy because it’s brand new even though they could have obtained a higher quality for the same price? .. is a combination of all of the above?
When I see this coat on the Chanel website, it makes my stomach churn. I wish I didn’t throw it away but I can’t regret it because it’s a clear symptom of our moment in time. Our society is changing. We’ve become so used to letting go of what is important to us. and making sacrifices becomes less and less of a let down and more a fact of life.
We have become complacent with life at the bottom of the food chain.
When I entered into my 30’s I discovered consignment shops and it was then that I vowed I would never shop retail anymore. It was a practical decision. As someone who was jump starting a small business within the realm of fashion, it was important that I looked the part. Maintaining my ability to dress in the same fashions, trends and designer brands relevant to my clients was an important part of doing business. This is true for every business, not just the fashion industry. The impression we leave with our peers in the business setting can make or break our career.
When you are in the market for a new skirt suit for the upcoming meeting that may lead you to the promotion you have worked so hard for, or the ski sweater you will be wearing on your first vacation to Whistler, Canada with your new corporate beau or just the perfect bag to throw over your shoulder when you meet his overly judgemental grandmother for the first time, where do you shop? She wears Chanel, you can’t afford Chanel. He wears Valentino but his salary is 20% higher than yours. Are you going to go to Old Navy? Saks? Neiman Marcus?
When you make the decision where to shop and what to buy, you are making a statement. As you convey to your new corporate beau’s Grandmother that you admire her generations’ sensibility and wonderfully crafted products as you place your hand on your vintage alligator Kelly bag (which is also a current fashion statement in 2017), and smile shyly as you are a consignee, you are telling her that you are the perfect, penny wise, fashion forward woman for her grandson.
If you think your peers in the board room don’t know the difference between a single thread suit that will survive enough cleanings to make it through a single season versus a quality suit that will carry you through to the next round of promotions, then maybe you don’t deserve that promotion. You know how the corporate world works. Play the game!
Don’t forget to pack the matching shoes and sweater…
When you need assistance putting together the perfect wardrobe on a modest budget, you are always welcome to consult me. I have 8 years of personal shopping experience to compliment your shopping know-how.
Consigning upscale and fine designer clothing since 2001 ~ KirstenRaye
I am 5′ 1″ tall and wear size 6 petite clothing, which is why I will be wearing this Oscar de la Renta sweater dress exactly the way it’s pictured if I don’t end up selling on ebay. Yes, it’s a button front dress but throw on a pair of jeans, loose fitting leggings, or a beige ankle length pencil skirt and it’s a maxi cardigan sweater coat! It doesn’t hurt that it’s the same color as my favorite food, chocolate brown!
I love this dress because I love long cardigan sweaters. It’s comfortable and casual yet still offers a sophisticated, clean appearance. Perfect for dressing down under or dressing up over. A nice scarf or some clunky jewelry can change the look completely. The cut makes it versatile enough so why not? For petite women the Lagenlook can be something of a challenge because it’s easy to look like we’re drowning in our clothes. I don’t see this as being a challenge with this particular sweater dress. It’s a size medium – that’s my size!
Click the picture if you’d like to see more photo’s in my eBay listing. Included are photo’s of what this lovely garment will look like when worn as intended, as a dress.
It seems today, the Oscar de la Renta brand is more synonymous with evening and bridal wear. It’s a deviation from his reputation which was established by his ready to wear creations. At my age I don’t see as much of the deviation because as an older woman I have a tendency to gravitate towards the more classic pieces. It makes me wonder, did I miss the mark with this Oscar de la Renta boucle blend sweater? Have women have fallen out of love with his ready to wear designs or do they younger fashionistas know that he was once better known for his more practical clothing designs? Maybe a little bit of both?
I listed, what I think is an amazing sweater on eBay two weeks ago. I wish I was capable of delivering a more tangible view of the sweaters textures. It’s really very beautiful. When I look at it in person (as opposed to the photos), I think of a more glamorous time when people were less casual and more preppie. I think of a high brow ski trip and a warm fire place. If you remember life and style of the 1980’s then you probably understand my question. To me, this sweater is a classic and it can out live the passing trends of every decade but as with most classic clothing pieces, there was always an era when it was a trend itself. That’s what’s so good about preppie fashion though! You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars every season updating your wardrobe. You only buy accessories or minimal separate pieces and no one will believe this is a vintage sweater. A pair of classic brown wool pants would be perfect. That’s what I was thinking when I posted them to eBay (you can find this sweater by clicking the photo).
I took pictures of this sweater with and without a belt. It’s probably the “80’s lady” in me, with my memories of iconic daily wear of glitz and glam. Did I miss the mark on this one?
I’m asking because I’ve had it listed on ebay for two weeks. For the price I’m surprised it hasn’t sold by now.
…will be the death of me if not by heart attack then by mass chocolate binge!
I’ve sold this Michael Kors bag twice already (on ebay). Both sales ended in nonpayment which is why this time I skipped the auction format and have it listed in the , “Buy it Now” format. I like that women love this bag enough to flock to the auction ripping each others hair out in a fuzz flying bidding frenzy that ends with someone laying on the floor with smudged lip gloss, but at some point someone needs to step up to the plate and show these fiesty little girls that the whole crab mentality thing is so yesterday. Real women have more class as well as follow through. We’re adults, ladies. (I hope you enjoyed that visual as much as I did).
Fun Fact: Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket (also barrel, basket or pot), is a way of thinking best described by the phrase, “if I can’t have it, neither can you.”
 The metaphor refers to a bucket of crabs. Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the bucket, but instead they grab at each other in a useless “king of the hill” competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise.
The analogy in human behavior is claimed to be that members of a group will attempt to negate or diminish the importance of any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, spite, conspiracy, or competitive feelings, to halt their progress.
My Michael Kors Bag listing on eBay
My name is Kirsten Raye and I learned about fashion when I learned to become an eBay seller. As unconventional as that seems, I am thankful for the experience because it’s been the most practical decision I have ever made as an adult. It saved my life.
I’m not going to say that it hasn’t been tough because it has, but what I can tell you is that selling brown suede Chanel shoes, Burberry Nova Check sunglass cases, vintage alligator Kelly bags, and silk Leopard print St. John dresses (and St. John Knits) has been much easier than the alternative. People like me don’t have many of those.
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I’ve been an eBay clothing seller since the summer of 2001. I have a couple of different selling accounts because I like to be consistent with the types of items I list. Here is my fashion selling account
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